Stop Whining and Start Winning 

By Jane Button 

You know when you were a kid and you started whining and your parents gave you a "time out"?  It's no different in business- you hear people whining and saying things like:

•  I can't

•  She has more stores interested in buying her products

• They have more money than I do

• They were an overnight success - I am struggling

• I have children so I don't have enough time

• I have to do everything myself so I can't get things done as fast as the other guys

Give yourself a "time-out" from this kind of thinking.

Stop comparing yourself to other businesses; other people and seemingly "overnight success" businesses. Comparing yourself, your products, your business and your knowledge to other people and businesses is the "kiss of death" to the entrepreneurial spirit.

Sitting around whining about what you don't have is like praying for what you don't want - so make a 30 day commitment to end the negativity and comparison thoughts. I challenge you to do this!

You are where you are now - right now this very minute!  Complaining or whining only drains your energy, your creativity and your resources for success. So stop it with the comparisons and get moving on changing your attitude to winning.

Turn Whining into Winning:

•  Turn "I can't" into "How can I make this happen" by using your creative nature which started you on this entrepreneurial path in the beginning. Remember the story about the two little girls - one said she couldn't and the other said she could - and they were both right. You are what you think you are. Thoughts are things - think good ones!

• You may think she has more stores interested in buying her products - it may or may not be true. It does not matter. The question is how are you going to get more stores interested in your products? Your business is unique - claim your uniqueness and learn how to attract interest in your products.

• Just because you have money does not mean you'll use it the right way. Don't allow money to be an excuse not to do something. Use the money you do have to your best advantage. Claiming lack gets you more lack not more money. There is great abundance for all. Change your attitude towards money and you'll change your life forever.

•  No one is really an overnight success - there is always working, movement, education, development going on in the background. How fast you get to the "success" depends on your definition of success - not anyone else's.  What is your definition?

• Please don't use your children as an excuse. We all have the same 24 hours in a day and yes, children need your time, your love and nurturing. Learn to use the time you do have wisely; get over the "balance" myth because there will be times when you focus more on your business or your children. Decide on your pace; outsource assistance and make choices - not excuses!

• "I have to do everything myself" is the biggest downfall of small businesses.  You DO NOT and SHOULD NOT!  Doing everything yourself is a huge mistake. Even though you need to know how everything works - you do not physically need to do everything yourself. My rule of thumb is, "do what only you can do and delegate the rest."  Use your brilliance where it is most effective.  Make a list of those things you can give away to someone else - then start the delegation ball rolling. And no whining about this either -  you can make more money and create more business by delegating.

Challenge yourself for the next 30 days.

Stop yourself when you start up with the whining and the "woe is me" thinking. You have the power, the brilliance and the mindset to change your attitude.  It will make a huge difference.